A life

1Severed endsIt has been a week of contentment that was preceded by a week of staggered anguish. No sleep gave away to anxious dreams. In this jumble, …

Dear Neurodivergents // 9

It’s probably hard to see right now but you need to keep going to therapy, taking those meds, opening yourself up.
(Unless your therapist, meds, companions make you feel unsafe

Dear Neurodivergents // 11

Starting to communicate that I am having a bad brain day, to my colleagues, partners, friends was a game changer.
It made me
1. Acknowledge that I was having a bad brain day. That I wasn’t just being lazy, moody or hungry.
2. Give myself permission to have bad brain days. Know that it doesn’t make me weak, unreliable or a liability to have bad brain days.
3. Be transparent. Manage energy and expectations.
4. See that there are good brain days too.

It’s one of the hardest things you’ll do. So if you can’t find the words, use this post.

Dear Neurodivergents // 10

Starting to communicate that I am having a bad brain day, to my colleagues, partners, friends was a game changer.
It made me
1. Acknowledge that I was having a bad brain day. That I wasn’t just being lazy, moody or hungry.
2. Give myself permission to have bad brain days. Know that it doesn’t make me weak, unreliable or a liability to have bad brain days.
3. Be transparent. Manage energy and expectations.
4. See that there are good brain days too.

It’s one of the hardest things you’ll do. So if you can’t find the words, use this post.

Dear Neurodivergents // 7

Reevaluate your career, education, marriage, partnership, economic, have-children-by, hair, skin, weight, dietary goals.

Dear Neurodivergents // 6

You don’t have to prove that you are better than / as good as / stronger than someone or that you are sick / suffering

Dear Neurodivergents // 5

You are not lazy, attention-seeking, over-sensitive, *insert gas lighting tool here*. You are sad, depressed, anxious, think about self harm. Acknowledge it. Listen to your body.

Dear Neurodivergents // 4

Most of us have been conditioned to suppress our “manageable” symptoms. Please take all of your ailments seriously.